Introducing Mummy Bee, Daddy Bee and Bumble Bee

Still in shock, anticipation and excitement to meet our little bumble bee.

Let me start off by introducing myself. I’m Mummy Bee, 18 and expecting our little bumble bee in 5 weeks’ time. I live with my lovely boyfriend (Daddy Bee) in our cosy little flat all nested awaiting our arrival in the summer. We are the Bumble Bee’s, named by my boyfriend due to my apparent likeness to a dopey bee when woken up in the morning, it’s kind of stuck.

Let me take you back to the beginning of our story. It was November 2012; I had just turned 18, madly in love and had big dreams for my future. My boyfriend and I decided to get our own place and start our lives together so we moved into our 1 bedroom ground floor flat in a nice area, both in good jobs and both happy. I was so excited, just turned 18, the wildest summer of my life has just come to an end and it would be the first time that I had lived away from home.

The day we got the keys, both of us couldn’t contain our excitement. We opened the door and my boyfriend jokingly carried me over the threshold. The next part was a blur but to cut a long story short it resulted in a positive pregnancy test the following month.

I was shocked and scared sitting in our bathroom petrified at how to break the news. So I went off to work and texted him instead with a blunt message reading “I’m pregnant” not knowing what to expect. However the reply; a happy, ecstatic, shocked father to be typical message ended up in my inbox. I was over the moon, still in a state of shock but nevertheless excited at the prospect of starting my own family with my first and only love.

I now fast forward you 8 months, to the present. I am a mere reflection of that naive 18 year old both mentally and physically. I am now a realistic, practical and matured individual prepared as anyone can be for motherhood. I am so excited for our future as a family and in turn have sacrificed some of my original hopes and dreams of my future. However, I tend to positively view it as I have acquired a new life goal which is to be the best mother and girlfriend I can possibly be.

I have changed tremendously in the last 8 months. I am no longer the size 10, made up and superficial young girl. My body has changed dramatically; a toned body swapped for a round stretchmark mess. No longer am I the stylish fashionista that blew my wages in top shop, I now reside in oversized, comfy maternity wear.

I am disappointed in the lack of care and consideration in the public health service for young mothers facing pregnancy and their rapidly changing bodies. I am one of the lucky ones, although my oversized swollen breasts and stretch-marked skin bothers me greatly I have a supportive partner who reassures me every day. Some young mothers to be unfortunately do not have that supportive network throughout their pregnancy. I was often dismissed when I mentioned these fears of my changing body to my specialised teenage midwife who I feel is deeply disappointing. This is something I feel very passionate about and intend to write more on this matter in due course.

This blog is for all those mothers who found news of their pregnancy a shock, but nevertheless want to be the best mother they can be. I trawled the net for someone in the same situation as me that I could relate to, which I failed to find. Hence the reason to create this blog, partly to outlet my own thoughts and feelings but with hopes to find other young mothers forced to grow up before their time. I intend to write about things that I am passionate about, motherhood, family life, creating a home and teenage issues.

Get in touch and keep reading!

 

Mummy Bee

xx